Ego is a B**CH

e·go
ˈēɡō/
noun
  1. a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
    “a boost to my ego”
    synonyms: self-esteem, self-importance, self-worth, self-respect, self-image, self-confidence

    “the defeat was a bruise to his ego”
    • PSYCHOANALYSIS
      the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
    • PHILOSOPHY
      (in metaphysics) a conscious thinking subject.

I read an interesting thought yesterday that went something like, animals are devoid of ego, which in turn means they do not think about their inadequacies: they feel everything intensely & that determines their action”

That, in my imaginative state, took my mind to so many places. From my interactions with the human race, one could say that a lot of people could use several seats : D ( * B**CH mode activated) .

Why couldn’t we, in some ways, adapt this animalistic nature to how we dealt with each other?

As my mind flew away, I thought about the years that have passed and how much I have grown and the things I have learnt.

In some ways, one could say, most of the intense emotions individuals displayed, were that of anger. While when it came to more demure emotions like love, one would find that people rarely, if ever freely, displayed it.

For a long time we live like this and later on find, that maybe the things that we lack when growing up or the circumstances that alter our subconscious, later on turn into the ego trigger that we have when we are a bit older.

I, for example, was proud of the fact that I had an ego the size of a planet when I was younger. I confess that now, maybe, its still there, but one could say, it has shrunk, just a little bit, in size 😀 (see, ego!).

Ego: The Protector

Ego, for me, made people respect me and to some extent it still does when the bear has been poked one too many times.

Ego was there for me when I needed to dismiss the popcockery of someone putting me in a box and it helped me attack those that I felt were a threat to me or those I loved.

In a sense it was my shield against a world that I didn’t really fit into.

Ego, I find, helps us get in control of the ‘inadequacies’ the world has fed us.

There are, of course, other ways ego can pop up for people:

  • The Defender : Always having to be right; one who is  guilty of dichotomous thinking
  •  The Controller : The need to be in control to ensure your safety; emotional discomfort is a sign you are out of alignment
  • The Shield-er : Anything that threatens ones self concept must be shut down; Has a hard time taking a joke

 

There are many forms with which your ego, or those of others, manifests itself. Can you pinpoint some?

 

Ego: Using The Voices To Your Benefit

If seen from a different perspective, I believe ego can help us, if we choose to nurture it rather than extinguish it.

If, for example, I didn’t have my ‘b**tch mode activate” switch 😀 I would be stuck in a place I know I wouldn’t want to be.

If we used, for example emotional intelligence to see our own inadequacies, we could use ego in ways that are more appropriate and gentle in nature.

Fact, emotional Intelligence helps with:

  • Self awareness
  • Self regulation
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • Social Skills

Therefore if we used EQ and tamed our ego by better understanding the intricate workings of our own subconscious, if we connected to the God within and accepted the demons that live, I believe ego would no longer be a b**ch threat but rather that b**chy friend over there that you can’t live without 😀 .

…….but then again what do I know with all the ifs I could just be day dreaming 😀

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*Thoughts expressed here are just that, thoughts. Please feel free to share yours, lets chat :)*

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