- a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
“a boost to my ego”
|synonyms:||self-esteem, self-importance, self-worth, self-respect, self-image, self-confidence
“the defeat was a bruise to his ego”
the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
(in metaphysics) a conscious thinking subject.
I read an interesting post yesterday that went something like, “animals are devoid of ego, which in turn means they do not think about their inadequacies: they feel everything intensely & that determines their action”
That, in my imaginative state, took my mind to so many places. Why couldn’t we, in some ways, adapt this animalistic nature to how we dealt with each other?
As my mind flew away, I thought about the years that have passed and how much I have grown and the things I have learnt.
In some ways, you could say, it seemed like most of the intense emotions individuals displayed was that related to anger. While when it came to more demure emotions like love, one would find that people rarely, if ever freely, display it.
For a long time, we live like this and in a way, maybe the things that we lack when growing up or circumstances that alter our subconscious, later on turn into the ego trigger that we have when we are a bit older.
I, for example, was proud of the fact that I had an ego the size of a planet when i was younger. I confess, maybe its still there now, but it has shrunk in size:) (see, ego!).
So for much of my younger years, I was not who I wanted to be.
Ego: The Protector
Ego, for me, made people respect me. It was there for me when I needed to show someone who I thought they wanted me to be and it helped me attack those that I felt were a threat to me or those I loved.
In a sense it was my shield against a world that I didn’t really fit into. Ego, not only for me, but for others as well, helps us get in control of the ‘inadequacies’ the world has fed us.
So when you think about it, does ego help us or could we do without it all together?
Ego: The Double Edged Sword
Lets put this into context. You and your guy/girl get into a heated argument and you part ways.
First of all, we see that arguments normally arise when two or more parties cannot agree on something. So you could say, by refusing to let go of ones opinion (ego) you butt heads with others.
Second we see that isn’t it the letting go of the ego that will determine whether or not you reconcile or even speak to each other ever again?
Here is another context. Lets say your doing a group project and as the leader, your meek nature causes you to lose control of the team to another member who is more aggressive.
Isn’t it the ego that is making you determine your self-worth in the situation leading you to lose control to someone whose self worth maybe the same as yours but only leads them to be more aggressive?
Its a double edge sword that one can’t truly escape.
Ego: Using The Voices To Your Benefit
If seen from a different perspective, though I believe ego can help us. By letting us see our inadequacies,it can be the right trigger for change. Think about it, when you pinpoint your ego you get to understand the intricate workings of your subconscious and where your demons may lie.
There is a freedom of knowing ones ego trigger. A freedom because once recognized you can now start to deal with the underlying issue thereby leading you to a life of continuous enlightenment and hopefully peace.
Rather then use let the ego tear away at your self-worth/respect and all that, take it and turn it for the better.
My ego showed me that I needed to value myself more and that my attacks were triggered by something much greater then what lay at the surface. By finding my ego trigger, I freed myself and through my acceptance I not only value myself more but those around me.
I don’t know, I’m just day dreaming after all.
*Thoughts expressed here are just that, thoughts. Please feel free to share yours, lets chat :)*